Merging presets is in long term plans... so you should do the manually.
Open AZCtrl window and select preset you are going to modify. Close UI of the first instance (important!).
Insert second instance of AZCtrl. Open window for the second instance and select my example preset. Close this window(important!).
Open first window (with your preset). Notice the preset name IS CHANGED. Type new preset name and press save.
Open second window (with example preset). FROM THAT MOMENT AND TILL YOU CLOSE SECOND WINDOW do NOT save preset!
There is nasty bug in Sonar which mess presets when you have more than one instance of the same plug-in...
So, now you can see example preset and modify your own.
Start with state "Busy" definition (Options tab), after defining manually set it to "No" (Overview tab)
Add hardware controls "_DeleteTimer" and "TheButton" (Option tab), notice the type for both ("System" and "Pad").
"Attach" Logical controls to both Hardware controls (Hardware tab). You can "Assign MIDI" to "TheButton" to the button on your controller you are going to use. Do not yet assign MIDI to "_DeleteTimer", it is special.
Switch to the Logic tab.
Start coping "_DeleteTimer". In example preset select each Action and reproduce is in your preset. Notice "Final" flag, other settings (like "Timer" "Once", and "Action condition" ("Busy:No") for the first action. Not all settings are shown in the Actions list, like "Once" for timer, but they should be set correctly.
Switch to the Feedback tab.
Select "_DeleteTimer : : Timer". Reproduce the same parameters for "MIDI" Action. Notice "loop" flag.
After setting all parameters, press "Play". You should see the message in the "Last MIDI event".
Now switch to Hardware tab and "Assign MIDI" to "_DeleteTimer" control.
Switch to the Logic tab again.
Copy "TheButton" actions. Notice "Final" flag and Action Conditions (for "Busy:Yes", "Transport:Stop" and "Transport:Play". The "Transport" is a system state, tracked by plug-in itself. You can not "Set" it as you do with "Set State" Action, but you can use it in conditions.
CLOSE SECOND WINDOW. Then (and only then!) press "Save preset" in the first one.
All that sounds a bit complicated, but each sentence is just 2-5 mouse clicks. Typing all this text took more time than creating the example... In fact typing both messages took ~20 minutes while configuring from scratch with testing was 2-3

So in case you do not get desired result or do not want do all that yourself, attach your original preset and I will make required modifications.